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Ali & Erica
Ali & Erica

Finding mr height: the podcast

Positive & practical advice from the dating trenches to help you take control of your dating life.

About The Show

From her TikTok and Instagram, @findingmrheight, dating coach Ali Jackson is joined by friend & stand up comedian Erica Spera (@spericaa) to bring you their positive and practical dating approach in podcast form. Their straightforward attitudes, often with some humor on the side, will help you tackle modern dating issues while building confidence and staying authentic to your true self. Follow along @findingmrheight for even more content!

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Meet your Hosts

Ali Jackson

Ali Jackson is a 35-year-old dating coach with a positive mindset who’s been there, in the trenches, looking for her person in New York City. She’s taken her experience and turned it into personalized programming designed to help you refine what you’re looking for…and then go get it. Now, she brings that expertise to the world of podcasts alongside her good friend, ERICA. Learn More or follow her on TikTok & Instagram.

Erica Spera

Erica Spera is a New York City based stand up comedian. She has been seen on The Late Late show with James Corden, and was one of TBS’ Comics to Watch. She has opened for comics such as Taylor Tomlinson, Bert Kreischer, Patton Oswalt, Jared Freid, and more! Spera also hosts the popular podcasts “Finding Mr. Height” and “Shooters Gotta Shoot” all about dating and relationships. You can follow her @Spericaa


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Episode #110 - The Fourth Ask A 30-Something Man One

It’s our fourth Ask A Man interview, featuring Erica’s close friend, the hilarious Jourdain Fisher. This one starts out spicy with some O-related listener polls and then we move on to peppering Jourdain with questions. And our producer Mike gets involved too! It’s a fun one all around.

Episode #109 - Storytime: Plus-Sized Fitness & Dating

*CW: This episode centers on body image and mentions intentional weight loss & disordered eating. We continue our Storytime series highlighting listener stories with Heather Boddy, a plus-size fitness professional who shares her journey with body image. The three of us dive into what fitness means to her (and what it does not), her best tips for hyping up our friends in their own journeys, and much more.

Episode #108 - The Profile Prompts One

How’s your dating app prompt game? Ali & Erica are here to help you step it up as they brainstorm their best answers to popular prompts! You’ll be starting better conversations in no time.

Episode #107 - The Non-Monogamy One ft. Rachel Wright

Don’t think you can relate to non-monogamy? Psychotherapist Rachel Wright just might change your mind. We talk about how relationship frameworks are changing, her personal journey from monogamy to non-monogamy, the difference between rules and agreements (and how to determine them), plus much more from listener questions!

Episode #106 - The We Met At Acme One ft. Lindsey Metselaar

We Met At Acme host Lindsey Metselaar joins Finding Mr. Height this week! We debate a slew of Weird or Nah and Mythbusters submissions, then dive into what Lindsey’s learned from marriage and her journey with being sober. We wrap things up with some stellar dating app banter suggestions, pulled straight from your Hinge submissions.

Episode #105 - The Dating Etiquette One

By popular demand, Erica & Ali are debating etiquette “rules” from New York’s Magazine recent article. We tackle things like “never purposefully wake up your significant other” and “you can tell any lie to leave a drinks date early.” And we get your opinions on them too! It’s a fun one all around.

Episode #104 - The Somatic Coaching One ft. Lauren Zoeller

This week is chock-full of practical nuggets as we welcome somatic relationship coach Lauren Zoeller to the pod. Together, we break down her nervous-system-based approach to coaching and even do some group exercises that you can follow along with at home. We’re all feeling a little less anxious after this one!

Episode #103 - The First Dating Theories One

Erica and Ali are back with our second installment of debating dating theories! This week, we cover theories like “if it’s not a f*** yes, it’s a f***no,” whether we’re more likely to value someone who “made us work for it,” and more.

Episode #102 - The First Dating Theories One

It’s time for a debate! A TikTok dating theories debate, that is. This week, we’ve found some popular theories to discuss, including red nail theory, having a “roster,” coffee as a first date, and manifesting your perfect partner.

Episode #101 - The Plastic Surgery One

It’s a longgg awaited topic on FMH – plastic surgery and cosmetic procedures. We dive into the shift in recent statistics in these areas and how the last few years have shifted all of our perceptions of ourselves. Then, we get personal, both sharing our own experiences with plastic surgery and how we feel about it years later.

Episode #100 - The tinder live one ft. lane more

Have you ever swiped on a dating app in a group of friends and felt a sense of community in your shared experiences? Our guest this week, Lane Moore, brings that feeling to the stage in her hilarious Tinder Live shows. We chat about green (and red) flags on a dating app profile and share our best tips!

Episode #99 - The Seventh Hot Topics One

We’re back with our latest Hot Topics, where we answer listener questions from our submission form! This week, we start out with a motion-sickness-related AITA. We then advise a listener on communication in between a second and third date, analyze a drawn-out dating app conversation, and discuss how to frame when you’re taking a break from work.

Episode #98 - The Third Ask A 30-Something Man One

Ask and you shall receive…it’s Ali’s brother on the pod! Drake (no, not *that* Drake) joins us for our third installment of Ask A Thirty-Something Man and we answer a ton of listener questions ranging from how guys – or at least Drake – feel about a woman asking them out to whether “bad timing” is just an excuse.

Episode #97 - The dating wrapped one

You’ve seen the videos all over social media…for our last podcast of the year, we are bringing you our own FMH version of Dating Wrapped! We share YOUR annual dating stats plus review our own year in dating, including how many first dates we went on, how many we actually wanted second dates with, and how many went…further. We wrap things up with our dating goals for 2023, informed by what we’ve learned from this year!

Episode #96 - the first storytime one ft. tara resnick

We’re introducing a new series on Finding Mr. Height…Storytime! Where we’ll hear from listeners as they share their stories and the lessons they’ve learned. This week, Tara Resnick joins the pod to tell us about a 5-year toxic relationship that she struggled to end. She shares how hard it was to “blow up her life” at 37 and where she’s at with her journey two years later.

Episode #95 - the second dating definitions one

Dating Definitions is back for round two! We continue last week’s discussion, starting with the wiiiiiild number of ghosting-adjacent terminologies. Who knew haunting and orbiting were different? And what is a sneaky link? Or a groundhog?

Episode #94 - the first dating definitions one

If you were hoping to hear us get fired up over the definitions of made-up words…your wait is over. This week begins our series on dating definitions and we kick things off with debating why all these definitions even exist. 

Episode #93 - the dating after trauma one ft. allyson roberts

*TRIGGER WARNING* This episode contains accounts of sexual assault. If you’d like to avoid, stop listening around minute 48 (we say trigger warning within the audio as well). Ali & Erica welcome cognitive behavior expert Allyson Roberts (@allysonroberts_ on TikTok & IG) onto the pod this week.

Episode #92 - the dating app openers one

Hey, listeners! Big question for you…what’s your favorite dating app opener? We’re sharing ours this week (and Erica has an idea that Ali just might steal) plus a few that you submitted! From keeping things interesting (even when they might not be) to dealing with an empty profile, this episode has got you covered.

Episode #91 - the chaotic singles one ft. cassidy davis

Finding Mr. Height is getting chaotic this week…chaotically single, that is. It’s our first in-person guest interview where we sit down (on lawn chairs in Ali’s empty apartment – apologies for the slight echo) with Cassidy Davis (@casidynashdavis), creator and host of the Chaotic Singles Parties you’ve seen all over TikTok.

Episode #90 - the introducing erica one

It’s Erica’s first official episode as Finding Mr. Height’s new cohost! We’re kicking things off with an introduction for the listeners using questions *from* the listeners.

Episode #89 - the farewell one

And…that’s a wrap for Roark! Ali & Roark sit down for the last time to record her final episode. Emotions were high during this interview-style episode where Ali peppered Roark with questions from the listeners.

Episode #88 - the judging one ft. adam & evan

it’s a podcast collab between Ali & Roark and Adam & Evan of the “I’ll Be the Judge of That” pod. The four debate common dating scenarios and ask – “can you?” Like – can you get engaged at another person’s party? You’ll hear just about every perspective on this episode.

Episode #87- The First Cheating One

Shockingly, Ali & Roark haven’t dedicated a podcast to the topic of cheating yet. Today changes that. They start by discussing a well-known dating question: once a cheater always a cheater?

Episode #86- The Eighth Grab Bag One ft. Therapy Jeff

Jeff joins the podcast for a Grab Bag episode that covers everything from the “ick” to the honeymoon phase to sleeping with someone “too early” to liking bad boys (and girls)!

Episode #85- The Sixth Hot Topics One

They answer listener questions about noticing a new dating prospect pulling away, feeling uncomfortable with a date’s alcohol consumption, and deciding whether to continue seeing someone when there is a complicated past.

Episode #84- The Second Finances One Ft. Nicole Lapin

Ali records with author and financial expert Nicole Lapin this week. They talk about how finances can affect relationships and cover topics ranging from pre-nups, developing “FQ” (aka financial intelligence) & so much more!

Episode #83- The First Finances One

Thoughts and prayers to Ali & Roark this week as they wade into the murky waters of dating and finances. Money can be quite the taboo topic and they hope to start breaking that down by discussing sensitive questions.

Episode #82- The Fifth Hot Topics One

Ali & Roark tackle three Hot Topics: asking your partner to plan more dates, handling a partner’s job opportunity in another country, and whether to date a virgin.

Episode #81- The Breakup Bestie One ft. Kendra Allen

This week, Ali & Roark chat with Kendra Allen aka Your Break Up Bestie! They talk all about actionable steps to recover from a break up, and they dive into Kendra’s new book, “The Break-Up Workbook.”

Episode #80- The Manifesting One ft. Haley Hoffman Smith

Ali & Roark welcome Haley Hoffman Smith to the podcast to talk all about manifesting. Haley is an author, podcaster, and manifestation coach and breaks down the concepts for Ali, Roark, and the listeners.

Episode #79- The Second Career One

This week they’re talking about skills that make someone a good manager, how to be intentional in your career, and navigating imposter syndrome.

Episode #78- The Seventh Grab Bag One

They answer a variety of questions such as double-messaging on dating apps, dating someone who still co-habitates with their ex, how to respond when your new partner “drops a bomb,” and dealing with a bad first kiss.

Episode #77- The First Career One

They share their very different career paths and start answering some listener questions about finding mentors, asking for a raise, and developing work/life balance.

Episode #76- The Second Ask a 30-Something Man One

Ali & Roark welcome the next “30-something man,” who happens to be Mr. Nobody. He answers questions about being friends with exes, date prep, feeling ready for exclusivity, and picking someone up IRL.

Episode #75- The Second Bad Date One

They analyze what a “bad date” even is and how to determine if you’re on one, and how to navigate asking for a date to be over, or how to get out a second date you don’t want to go on.

Episode #74- The Matchmaker Maria One ft. Maria Avgitidis

It’s a super-sized episode this week because Ali & Roark have way too much to talk about with Matchmaker Maria! Maria Avgitidis is the CEO of Agape Match and the host of the “Ask a Matchmaker” podcast.

Episode #73- The First Bad Date One

Time to talk about bad dates! We have all had them, and this week, Ali & Roark share their absolute worst date stories (Ali’s is a real doozie).

Episode #72- The Fourth Hot Topics One

Hot Topics are back as Ali & Roark go in depth with three listener questions. Hot Topics include: a guy who calls his ex his “girlfriend” when he tells stories that involve her; whether a listener is being too hard on her cute neighbor’s social media presence; and more!

Episode #71- The Dating After Cancer One ft. Melissa Berry

Ali & Roark are joined by the Cancer Fashionista Melissa Berry to start the conversation about two big topics – dating after cancer and dating after 40.

Episode #70- The Third Hot Topics One

The conflict series comes to a close (for now) as Ali & Roark discuss conflict resolution. They discuss defensiveness, saying “sorry,” when to compromise, and using relationship check-ins to keep lines of communication open.

Episode #69- The Friendship One ft. Jillian Richardson

They discuss navigating conflict with friends, how to make new friends, friend “break ups,” and overall celebrate the complexity of female friendships!

Episode #68- The Second Conflict One

The conflict series has turned into a trilogy – because of course it has. On this episode, Ali & Roark answer questions listeners sent in after the First Conflict One, including: how to make conflict healthier, how to confront “unsolvable” problems, and how to deal with recurring arguments on the same topic.

Episode #67- The Matchmaking One ft. Chi Love

Chi (@nyalovebychi) runs her own matchmaking business and is here to answer all our listeners’ questions and how to be your own matchmaker!

Episode #66- The First Conflict One

First, they discuss when they think it’s worth bringing up a topic that could cause conflict. Then, they focus on how to handle hard conversations like when you feel like you might shut down, what happens if you cry through it, and do you re-open the conversation if you think of something else to say later.

Episode #65- The First Ask a 30-Something Man One

Matt tackles a variety of different questions like what makes a profile “swipe-able,” whether men tend to be intimidated by smart women, and if men want women to offer to pick up the check.

Episode #64- The FMH Glossary One

Covering all the major exes that are worthy of a nickname. They hope this will be a good reference episode in case you’ve missed any relationship origin stories.

Episode #63- The Dating With Herpes One ft. Erica Spera

Erica brings her vulnerability and humor to the pod to share her experience dating with herpes, bust herpes myths, and answer listener questions like when and how to disclose with a new partner.

Episode #62- The Third Hot Topics One

They start with a question about friends who choose to stay friends with your ex. Then, they tackle a question about disclosing *your own* red flags.

Episode #61- The Closure One ft. Abby Medcalf

The focus of the conversation is closure – what is it, why do we want it, and how can we get – but Abby goes much further and they probably could have talked for hours because she is so darn lovely and interesting.

Episode #60- The Astrology One ft. Aliza Kelly

They discuss topics like what does it really mean to have a particular sign? Is your sun sign the be all end all? And should we *really* not date THAT sign (you know which one we mean)?

Episode #59- The First Long Distance One

They take a few listener questions about how to *date* long distance (how to be in a relationship long distance will be saved for a later episode).

Episode #58- The Dating After Divorce One ft. Desiree Simone

Desiree offers her perspective on sharing your divorce story with a new partner, and, if you’re dating someone who is divorced, how to discuss it with them without being invasive.

Episode #57- The Sixth Grab Bag One

In this round of Grab Bag questions, they tackle dating as an introvert, breaking up with someone you live with, whether an age gap is too much to overcome in dating and many more!

Episode #56- The Lovebombing One ft. Meghan Wainwright

Meghan talks about what it felt like to experience a “whirlwind” romance and the moments that gave her pause and the red flags she should have seen more clearly.

Episode #55- The Chronic Illness One ft. Gigi Robinson

The three discuss how to tell others about a chronic illness, how to hype yourself up when your body image isn’t at its best, and how to know you’re “enough.”

Episode #54- The Gaslighting One

They analyze how the term has become vastly overused in a way that can sometimes undermine how genuinely serious real gaslighting is.

Episode #53- The Timeline One ft. Laura Behnke

Laura Behnke didn’t have a relationship until she was 35, and she comes on the pod to say “who cares” to following anyone’s timeline but your own. The three discuss embracing your life without a partner, being fully yourself on dates, and much more!

Episode #52- The First Love Language One

They walk through the five different love languages, then discuss the utility of the framework, its shortcomings, and their own experiences sharing their love languages and receiving their partners’.

Episode #51- The Widowed Mom One ft. Krista St. Germain

Krista and Ali talk about losing a partner, moving forward and dating again, and how to integrate grief.

Episode #50- The Therapy Jeff one ft. Jeff Guenther

You may recognize Jeff from your TikTok FYP. He is incredible at doling out bite-sized relationship advice you absolutely need to hear, and Ali & Roark think you’ll love this episode.

Episode #49- The Second Hot Topics One

Answering questions like burn out from solid first dates that don’t turn into seconds dates & more!

Episode #48- The Third Breakup One ft. Amy Chan

Amy used her own breakup as a catalyst to change her life and she shares with Finding Mr. Height listeners how to come out of a breakup stronger than before, and how to avoid getting stuck in negative loops so that we can move onward and upward.

Episode #47- The Second Breakup One

This time they’re discussing what it’s like to be the one initiating the breakup. They start by discussing the difficulty of knowing whether your relationship problems are “normal” or “breakup worthy.”

Episode #46- The First Breakup One ft. Dara Pollak

Dara is a wonderful and vulnerable storyteller, and she shares her emotional journey from relationship to breakup to moving forward afterwards.

Episode #45- The Second Anxious One

They cover a huge range of topics including how to share your needs, how to self-soothe, when to bring your partner into your anxiety and ask them for help, and how to manage anxious feelings about being on the same page.

Episode #44- The First Anxious One

Dating can (and does) frequently cause anxious thoughts and feelings, so Ali & Roark start the multi-episode series by discussing some tried-and-true anxiety management strategies they use.

Episode #43- The Stylish One ft. Alyssa Dineen

We discuss discovering your personal style, being confident in your clothes, and what to never wear on a first date. It’s a super fun conversation and don’t blame us if it results in either a closet clean out or a trip to your favorite store!

Episode #42- The First Hot Topics One

For their first Hot Topics episode, Ali & Roark read a listener’s screenshot and discuss whether she should go out with the guy she’s texting, they answer a question about a guy whose friends secretly spied on their date, and more!

Episode #41- The Couples Therapy One ft. Charisse Cooke

Charisse covers a ton of ground and answers listener questions such as how to handle having doubts about your partner, how to get what you need from a relationship, and how to set boundaries in a gentle way.

Episode #40- The Family One

They answer questions like when’s the right time to meet someone’s family? Along with many more and share horror and success stories of their own.

Episode #39- The Multiple One

Ali & Roark talk through the logistics and emotions of that early-dating phase. Topics include, how to tell someone you’re still open to dating others (and whether you have to), running into someone you’re dating while on another date, and how to manage your attachment.

Episode #38- The Fifth Grab Bag One ft. Shaun Galanos

They answer all sorts of questions about direct communication and vulnerability. This is the longest episode yet because the three have way too much fun laughing, commiserating, and agreeing with each other.

Episode #37- The Second Attachment One ft. Kristie Taylor

Kirstie, a dating and relationship writer who authored the book What I Wish I Knew About Love, drops about 83 insightful bombs this episode as the three women discuss their own attachment journey, and answer your questions!

Episode #36- The First Attachment One

This week, they define each attachment style, discuss where their styles came from, and share a few anecdotes about navigating dating through an attachment-style lens.

Episode #35- The Aligned One

Ali & Roark discuss a HuffPost article “8 Things You *Don’t* Need To Have In Common With Your Future Spouse” and answer a few listener questions as they parse through what important commonalities are, and which ones matter less.

Episode #34- The Defining One

Ali & Roark are here to talk all about defining the relationship (the DTR talk). After being asked this question a whole bunch, they finally break down the concept what it means to be “exclusive.”

Episode #33- The Second Social One

This time around, Ali & Roark talk about how to navigate social media pitfalls while in a relationship and after a break-up.

Episode #32- The Social One

Is it weird if someone doesn’t have social media? How do you handle someone asking for your social media handle before you’ve gone on even one date? And once you’re ready, do you need to discuss posting your new partner on the grid?

Episode #31- The Fourth Grab Bag One

This round, topics include: how to move forward after a break up, dating in a new city, and setting boundaries in a new relationship.

Episode #30- The Swiping One

They go over Ali’s philosophy for which photos to use and debate the merits of various prompts on Hinge and Bumble. Listen to this episode with your profile open and see if you can upgrade yours!

Episode #29- The Dating & New York One ft. Jonah Feingold

They had the pleasure of watching Dating & New York – Jonah’s debut movie as writer and director – and then getting to chat with him about it. Jonah shares about his creative process, tells an incredible casting story, and discusses rom-com tropes.

Episode #28- The Opening One

Did you know this is Ali & Roark’s tried-and-true Bumble conversation opener? Filled with practical advice, this episode is all about how to get messages going and grab someone’s interest on the apps.

Episode #27- The Searching One ft. Jenna Langbaum

Jenna’s book is a unique approach to sharing stories of modern dating. In a collection of short stories, she highlights the complicated emotions and bizarre dating stories we all accumulate as we search for the one.

Episode #26- The Negging One

This week’s topic is negging: the back-handed compliment aka an insult that unfortunately permeates dating.

Episode #25- The Confusing One

They answer listener questions about the confusion of having a strong in-person connection but lukewarm texting; and what it’s like to date someone who behaves like you’re in a relationship but tells you they don’t want one.

Episode #24- The Group Chat One ft. Ilana Dunn

This week, Ali welcomes on Ilana Dunn (@ilana.dunn) of Seeing Other People (@seeingotherpeople) to co-host while Roark takes the bar.

Episode #23- The Third Grab Bag One

They read a *chef’s kiss* listener submitted Phone Throwing Moment, and this week’s Weird or Nah triggers what will inevitably be a podcast mainstay: Ali’s Anger.

Episode #22- The Exploding One

They define love bombing and talk about how tricky it can be to separate it from genuine affection and interest. Both share their own experiences being love bombed and address how to set effective boundaries when you notice love bombing behaviors.

Episode #21- The Undefined One

Ali & Roark delve into the messy topic of relationships that aren’t quite relationships, but they’re also totally relationships. We said it was messy!

Episode #20- The After The First One

Ali & Roark finally finish the first date trilogy and address after the first date. How do you tell if you’re into someone enough for a second date? They address this question and more!

Episode #19- The Queer One ft. Queer Dating Coach Ariella Serur

Ali & Roark have wanted to do an episode focused on LGBTQIA+ dating for a while now, and Pride Month felt like the perfect time! Ariella Serur, @queerdatingcoach on Instagram, comes on the pod to have both an insightful and fun conversation.

Episode #18- The Grieving One

Ali opens up about her own personal journey since her dad’s death in 2018. She shares what it is like to talk to a new partner about it and how she’s come to understand new needs and boundaries.

Episode #17- The During The First One

Ali & Roark thought discussing the first date would be two episodes, but turns out it is a trilogy! In Episode 14 they covered everything before the date and in an upcoming episode they will tackle after the first date.

Episode #16- The Second Grab Bag One

Ali & Roark are together this week for a second grab bag episode. You read that right – Ali & Roark are literally together! They had a blast recording this one in-person in New York.

Episode #15- The Not Dying Alone One ft. Logan Ury

Ali & Roark could not be more excited to have Logan Ury on the podcast this week. Logan is a behavioral scientist, dating coach, and author of How to Not Die Alone.

Episode #14- The Before The First One

Ali & Roark are back this week for part one of two episodes on a very important topic: the first date. In this episode, they discuss everything leading up to the date (part two will be about the date itself).

Episode #13- The Just Friends One ft. Seeing Other People

Ali & Roark welcome on Ilana & Jonah, the duo behind the Seeing Other People podcast, to discuss everything surrounding being friends with an ex.

Episode #12- The Motherly One

it’s a Mother’s Day extravaganza as Ali & Roark welcome their moms to the podcast! Ali’s mom Trude and Roark’s mom Christine share their dating stories, offer advice to their younger selves, and muse about the men they hope Ali & Roark will end up with.

Episode #11- The Alarming One

This week, Ali & Roark are seeing red! Flags, that is. They start by defining a red flag: how is it different from a dealbreaker, and is a yellow flag even a thing?

Episode #10- The Friendly One ft. Matt & Darcy

Ali & Roark welcome their first guests to the podcast: their best guy friends Matt & Darcy! Ever wondered what it is like to have a close friend of your preferred dating gender?

Episode #9- The First Grab Bag One

Ali and Roark are switching it up and trying all the new things! They introduce a segment where they ask, “is that weird or nah?” and answer as many questions as possible submitted by @findingmrheight Instagram followers.

Episode #8- The Inviting One

As great philosophers once said, “If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends.” The Spice Girls were right! Which is why Ali & Roark are talking all things surrounding meeting the friends.

Episode #7- The Boomerang One

Should you get back together with your ex? The bad news: Ali & Roark don’t know. The good news: what they DO know are some questions you can ask yourself when deciding if this is right for you.

Episode #6- The Corresponding One

Ever feel like you’re having a great back and forth with a match over text, but it just never seems to end with a date? Sounds like you’re in a pen pal situation, and both Ali and Roark have been there, too!

Episode #5- The Needy One

“If he wanted to, he would” – sound familiar? Spoiler alert: Ali & Roark do not approve this message. They debunk this dating myth and rewrite the common phrase to put the focus on communication and understanding your own needs.

Episode #4- The Disappearing One

Boo! Don’t worry, this podcast isn’t disappearing, but Ali and Roark are talking about men who did! Ghosting. One of the most common problems facing modern dating.

Episode #3- The Skeptical One

This week, Ali and Roark discuss how to talk to people who are skeptical about online dating: parents, friends, and even people ON the apps (we are talking to you let’s-lie-about-how-me-met people).

Episode #2- The Unsolicited One

It’s only episode two and Ali & Roark are already tackling *that* topic…that’s right, dick pics, requests for nudes, and when a match gets too sexual too soon for your comfort level.

Episode #1- The Actual First One

Get to know your co-hosts as Ali & Roark share both their friendship origin story and walk down memory lane of relationships past.

Episode #0- The First One

Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast – a teaser! Meet dating coach Ali from her @findingmrheight TikTok and Instagram and her good friend Roark as they embark on a podcast.